Learning about having a sexually transmitted infection (STI) can be stressful as it is. Having to talk about it with a partner adds another layer of stress and can be nerve wracking for many. It’s an important conversation to have, but isn’t always easy.
In this guide, you’ll learn tips on how to talk about your STI results with a partner and ways to prevent the spread of STIs.
How to talk about your STI results
Before we dive into how to talk about your STI results, keep in mind that you’re not alone in your experience. Conversations about STIs and safe sex are a normal part of an active sex life. With the following tips, conversations like this can be a little bit easier.
- Try to stay calm. It’s normal for people to be confused when they receive unfortunate news. Going in with a calm and positive attitude will help set the tone and facilitate a fruitful conversation.
- Keep an open mind. By approaching the conversation thoughtfully and with compassion, it will help the conversation go smoothly.
- Do your research. Your partner is likely going to have questions, so gather as much information as possible beforehand. Doing your research about STIs can help you feel more confident during the conversation.
- Gather resources. There may also be lots of emotions involved so a partner may not process all the information you share during the talk. Having resources on-hand to share can also help answer any questions that come up after the conversation. Here are some resources: STIs - Health Canada, Action Canada for Sexual Health & Rights
- Pick a time and environment. Choose a time when you won’t be interrupted and an environment that you feel safest, whether that’s in-person or virtually. If you prefer a face-to-face discussion, make sure you have privacy, or if safety is a concern, a public space.
Tips to prevent the spread of STIs
There are many ways to avoid or lower your risk of getting an STI. Here are a few things you can do:
- Consistently and correctly use condoms and dental dams
- Get tested regularly
- Talk to your partner about practicing safer sex
- Encourage your partner(s) to get tested regularly
- Educate yourself about STIs — the more you know, the better you can protect yourself and your partner
- Avoid sexual activity
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